Best Time-Tested Ideas for Grandparenting from a Distance

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Grandparenting from a distance can be a challenge.

Moving thousands of miles away from the place my spouse and I called home was a dream come true. City life no longer held its appeal and we were ready to embark on a new adventure in a small town.

In doing so our family would be spread out all over the country.

The move has been successful. However, long-distance grandparenting can be a challenge.

Although I think with the right attitude and my time-tested ideas, you can build a meaningful bond with your grandchildren. Don’t let the fear of distance keep you from relocating, or on the flip-side, retiring in place.

In Rebel Retiree’s article “What Type of Grandparent are You”, he suggests that retirees follow the path with a heart, live the life of their dreams, and not use the grandparent card to determine where to live in retirement.

It’s good advice to be considered.

Long-distance grandparenting is common.

Consider what a grandparenting study from AARP found; approximately 50 percent of grandparents live more than 200 miles from their grandchildren.

For some of us, that may seem close, for others, 200 miles is a great distance. Regardless of your perception of how far or near, it may help to know that there are large numbers of long-distance grandparents.

Grandparenting from a distance can be difficult.

There are times when I’m sad about the number of miles between my grandchildren and me.

I have missed birthday parties, sporting events, and other special occasions. I have worried about making meaningful connections and establishing bonds with my grandchildren.

Nevertheless, I know that worrying gets me nowhere and my efforts are put to best use in being the best long-distance grandparent that I can be.

Having embraced every delicious moment of my new life has resulted in my becoming a more interesting granny.

With that being said, I encourage you to trust yourself, be yourself, and be the best long-distance grandparent that you can be.

The following are my best time-tested ideas for building a bond with your grandchildren. They will make memories and help you build a lasting relationship with your long-distance grandchildren.

Write a Letter - Rebel Retirement

3 letter writing ideas to “wow” your grandchildren.

In this day and age of instant communication, it’s a thrill to open your mailbox and receive a piece of snail mail. Surprise a grandchild with a special letter, and let the bonding begin! Want to score extra points? Enclose small items, stickers, or a drawing that you made yourself.

You’ll need to initiate the letter writing process and I encourage you to set a goal for yourself. Perhaps writing one letter a week will work for you. Tell stories about your own childhood, ask questions that make your grandchild think, or share interesting facts about the place where you live. Be creative and think out of the box.

I am a summer to-do list-maker. One summer, I challenged myself to send a letter a week. Although my grandchildren took vacations, went to summer camp, and always seemed busy, I kept in touch with them all season long.

It was a wonderful experience of sharing and learning about each other. I received many replies, but I caution you not to expect it. Letter writing may be too difficult for the younger set, while some of the older grandchildren may have little interest in letter correspondence. Despite that, it doesn’t mean your letter didn’t make an impact.

1. The mystery letter.

The mystery letter builds suspense and is a favorite with younger children. It is definitely a bit too corny for tweens and teens.

Here’s how it works:

First – write a simple, one-page letter. A large sheet of paper works best.

Second – cut the letter into 3 pieces, like a jigsaw puzzle. Put one piece of the letter into an envelope. It doesn’t matter if it is the closing of your letter, the middle, or the beginning. Mix it up and have fun. It’s all about creating suspense for the recipient of your letter. I recommend writing “Part 1 of 3” on the back of the envelope to alert your grandchild and their parents that this is part of a series of letters.

Third – mail the letter with one-piece enclosed and save the other pieces to be mailed on days 2 and 3. When all of the pieces arrive, the letter is complete!

2. The survey letter.

Embark on a journey of discovery with a survey letter. Learn about your grandchild’s likes and dislikes with a short questionnaire. The survey letter relieves you and your grandchild of the awkward 3rd-degree conversations that may arise with phone calls. The survey letter helps you get to know your grandchild better.

Instead of your little one being put on the spot and having to come up with answers for a curious grandma or grandpa, a survey letter affords them the space to answer, in, and on their own time. A survey letter encourages your grandchild to share more with you.

Here’s a sample of how to write a survey letter.

Grandchild Letter Sample - Rebel Retirement

 

Remember to introduce your letter and share some of your personal thoughts on the topic.

Give instructions on how to show their answers by circling, underlining, etc.

Ask them to return the survey to you.

3. The postcard makes it easy to bond.

Sending a postcard from a faraway place never goes out of style. They are fun to send and a pleasure to receive.

Encourage your grandchildren to send postcards to you when they are out of town.

For the long-distance grandparent, letter writing encourages creativity and builds memorable and meaningful relationships.

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Telephone calls – have fun and hear each other’s voices.

There is a lot to be said about the sound of someone’s voice, and the soothing, forceful, or cranky tone of a grandparent can say a lot to a grandchild. Grandchildren who talk to their grandparents over the phone benefit by developing social skills while also learning about their grandparent’s personality.

If you or your grandchild aren’t the chatty types, playing games over the phone can help alleviate the gap of silence.

Games Over the Phone

Who put the Dot – Although better played in person, “Who Put the Dot” can turn a 15-minute phone chat with a grandchild into a successful long-distance playtime.

You will need a bit of imagination.

First, form an image in your mind of drawing a circle on your grandchild’s back. Ask them to listen carefully, while you draw a circle with your finger.

Very slowly say “Round, round the circle, who puts the dot”?

At this point, select one of your fingers as the digit that puts the dot on your grandchild’s back.

Now, ask which finger put the dot. If answered correctly, it becomes your grandchild’s turn to draw the circle and put the dot.

No cheating for the sake of being kind to your grandchild. If they don’t guess correctly, they will eventually. And when it becomes their turn, you may be the one losing the guesses.

Do we Have – Remember the game “I See Something”, or “I Spy”, as it’s commonly known?

With a simple modification, this game becomes “Do We Have” for the long-distance grandparent.

Start by asking a question about something you have in your home. For instance, you might ask, “Do we have a brown sofa?” The grandchild answers yes or no.

Depending on the accuracy, it becomes their turn or remains yours.

Liven it up a bit, by asking silly questions. For example, “Do we have a purple dinosaur standing in our backyard?” or “Did we paint the ceilings red?”

You get the idea. You will be surprised at how much kids enjoy this simple over-the-telephone game.

Good phone skills are necessary, but telephone time can also be playtime.

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Modern technology ideas for kids of all ages.

With the help of modern technology, long-distance grandparents can stay in touch through various means. Connecting by video, texts, and other social media, boomers can immediately share experiences and develop special bonds with our grandchildren.

-Video Calling

Programs and apps like Skype, Google Hangouts, and FaceTime enable long-distance grandparents to satisfy their wish to see grandchildren in action.

You may not be able to kiss and squeeze them, but it’s the next best thing to being there.

Gesturing and facial expressions communicate emotion. Both grandparent and grandchild can convey a myriad of feelings through video calls.

  • Webcams make it possible to attend long-distance birthday parties and holiday gatherings.
  • Consider a weekly book club get-together where you read to your grandchild and your grandchild reads to you.
  • If your video chat gets boring, wrap it up. It’s always better to leave them wanting more, than wanting less.

Cement your long-distance grandparent relationship with video chats. You’ll definitely experience a familiarity when you finally do get to see your grandchild.

-Texting

Don’t shy away from texting. Be cool.

It doesn’t matter if you are awkward with a keyboard, you will be a much cooler grandparent if you let your fingers do the talking.
There are many ways to send text messages; Facebook Messenger, Google Hangouts, Skype Chat, and of course through your phone.

As text messaging is one of the most common forms of communication with the younger crowd, you would be an idiot not to try to connect with them this way. I would say it is by far one of the easiest methods to reach your grandchildren.

-Send thinking of you messages

Don’t be a boring grandparent, and simply say, “I was thinking of you today.”

Make an impact!

If you think, read, or see something that reminds you of your grandchild, share it. One of the best ways to show your love for them is to remember what they are interested in.

-Send pictures of yourself being cool

There are lots of ways to be cool that don’t include doing a headstand

Think of sharing awesome pictures of sunsets, or a shot of the scenery while hiking or biking.

Everyday experiences are fun to share as well. Why not show the cookies you’ve baked, the dead mouse the cat dragged in, or the colorful produce department at your local grocery store.

The possibilities are endless.

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Grandparenting from a distance with Facebook

Facebook is an excellent means of bridging the gap and keeping in touch with your grandchildren. It isn’t necessary to speak to them directly on Facebook.

Share things that interest you, and look at what they share to get to know them better.

Don’t write in ALL CAPS. That means you’re shouting, and makes you look tech-no.

Some older men do this, and it is very uncool.

Don’t get too personal. That could be embarrassing. Facebook is a public forum, so keep it chill.

Live Stream Sporting Event Idea

This idea is not always possible, but it’s worthwhile looking into it.

If your grandchild participates in a competition, for example, playing volleyball in a school gymnasium, the school may record the activity for their own use. If so, you may be able to stream it live through your computer by logging on to their website.

Although the quality was not the best while streaming a volleyball tournament from Alaska, I had a front-row seat to watch my granddaughter’s game. That was important to me and made watching the low-quality video worth it!

Conclusion

Communication is the key to successful long-distance grandparenting. And the ideas for grandparenting from a distance are limitless.

Letter writing, telephone calls, and modern technology are important tools for long-distance grandparenting.

Think modern, use your imagination, and in turn establish a bond and build relationships with your grandchildren that will last a lifetime.

This article was updated to improve clarity for reader experience and additional pictures added.

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